Today we were vividly reminded that although K tolerates us, and isn't frightened and nervous about being with us like he was during our first visit on Monday, he doesn't particularly like us, either. ;) It's not fun to write that, because obviously we would love for our boy to fall immediately in love with us, but at the same time, there is a silver lining. This boy adores his baba, and watching how his face springs to life and how animated with excitement he gets when she enters the room shows us that he knows how to love and he is discriminatory in his love. Many children who have been long institutionalized are willing to "love" anyone who shows positive attention to them. We ran into a little girl yesterday who was like this, and her parents (her parents have already completed their first visit and are waiting to come bring her home) will have challenges with attachment that we will not have with K. We have learned that he is selective about who he loves, but that he can love, and love deeply. What a day that will be when we see his whole little body light up when he sees me or Matt (or one of his brothers or sisters!) walk into the room! We will know that we have earned something precious.
Here are a few photos of K tolerating these weird people who don't even know how to talk right. ;)
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